Dear Babe,
I really like this guy. I think I could maybe love him, but he keeps telling me he cares about me but he’s not ready to be in a relationship with me. I said I’d wait and he’s very attentive and considerate but he’s also out having threesomes with models he meets at his DJing job.
What can I do to bring him around and make him ready for me?
Sincerely,
Waiting
Dear Waiting,
The only one you need to bring around is yourself. By waiting for this guy you are humiliating yourself. You need to go out and have your own threesomes with models.
And really if he tells you on the up and up that he can’t be in a relationship with you, why are you in one with him? Get some self-respect and go live your life before it’s over.
Keep in mind, the first thing that will happen is he will suddenly be ready for you, but really he’s just making sure you’re still there for him. And the minute you are he’ll either not be ready anymore or he’ll be cheating on you.
If I could reach you I’d slap you straight (lovingly),
xx
Babe
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