oldMarilyn.jpgI realized that older women are less attractive when I went to LA last weekend. All of the women who were considered, or trying to be considered, attractive had the features of younger women (either naturally or through surgery).

It made me remember what it was like when I had youthful features and more people considered me attractive. People who would never actually like me as a person wanted to be around me (and I wasn’t even that pretty).

Now that I’m in my mid 40s and my face has lost the generic qualities of youth (as is the case with most older women) I am attractive to fewer people. Now the only people who want to be in my company are the ones who actually like me for the person I am.

So as an older woman, I’m less attractive. But in spite of popular media telling me that I should feel bad about it, I thank my lucky stars every day.

Photo: Andrezj Dragan

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Babe Scanlon is a writer living and working in San Francisco. She's worked as an archaeologist, computer game designer, agent at Agent Provocateur and hypnotherapist. She is controlling your mind at this very moment.

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  • N.F.

    I have to disagree with this article’s writer. As a soon-to-be 43-year-old woman, I may be biased, but I believe an older woman’s maturity, comfort in her own skin, sexual experience and appetite can make her more attractive to the opposite sex than a lot of the younger, more physically fresh-looking women around.

    Nothing says attractive better than self-assuredness, -knowledge and -esteem! And nothing says unappealing/undesirable better than insecurity and inexperience.

    Maybe I’m lucky, but I, for one, still have to fight ’em off (the men and boys, that is)!

  • N.F.

    I have to disagree with this article’s writer. As a soon-to-be 43-year-old woman, I may be biased, but I believe an older woman’s maturity, comfort in her own skin, sexual experience and appetite can make her more attractive to the opposite sex than a lot of the younger, more physically fresh-looking women around.

    Nothing says attractive better than self-assuredness, -knowledge and -esteem! And nothing says unappealing/undesirable better than insecurity and inexperience.

    Maybe I’m lucky, but I, for one, still have to fight ’em off (the men and boys, that is)!

  • Babe Scanlon

    Dear N.F.,

    Thank you so much for your opinion! I love knowing what other people think.

    xx
    Babe

  • Babe Scanlon

    Dear N.F.,

    Thank you so much for your opinion! I love knowing what other people think.

    xx
    Babe

  • Soonerdiver

    As with N.F. I’m not really sure the purpose of the article? I would have to side with N.F. in all regards… I am a native San Franciscan who has lived all over the world; am in my 60’s and very comfortable in my ‘own skin’.

    I am happily married and still have women and college age ladies trying to hit on me. I am an avid and active SCUBA Instructor, love the out doors and to travel to places I haven’t been to.

    Bottom line, as N.F. stated, “Nothing says attractive better than self-assuredness, -knowledge and -esteem!”

    I do enjoy reading your blog and articles whenever I’m on the site.

  • Soonerdiver

    As with N.F. I’m not really sure the purpose of the article? I would have to side with N.F. in all regards… I am a native San Franciscan who has lived all over the world; am in my 60’s and very comfortable in my ‘own skin’.

    I am happily married and still have women and college age ladies trying to hit on me. I am an avid and active SCUBA Instructor, love the out doors and to travel to places I haven’t been to.

    Bottom line, as N.F. stated, “Nothing says attractive better than self-assuredness, -knowledge and -esteem!”

    I do enjoy reading your blog and articles whenever I’m on the site.

  • Babe Scanlon

    Thank you for reading my blog.

    The purpose of this article was to celebrate being loved for one’s inner self and not for how one looks. I agree it didn’t come out as clearly as I would have liked. I’m going to keep working on expressing this.

    Thanks again!
    Babe

  • Babe Scanlon

    Thank you for reading my blog.

    The purpose of this article was to celebrate being loved for one’s inner self and not for how one looks. I agree it didn’t come out as clearly as I would have liked. I’m going to keep working on expressing this.

    Thanks again!
    Babe