Dear Babe,

I moved to San Francisco expecting to meet a bunch of open minded, tolerant people but instead I’ve found an incredible amount of bigotry, people who are unable to respect, understand, or even entertain opinions that are different from their own. Oh sure, these people think they are open minded but they’re just bigots who recycle.

I had really high hope for the hippies but they are some of the most judgmental, intolerant people I’ve ever met. What’s going on?

Sincerely sad,
Bombarded by Bigots

Dear BbB,

I think it’s that certain people believe so strongly in themselves as exceptionally good (better than others), that they get lazy and never bother to question their actions. Like religious people who think their goodness is so untouchable that anything they do is good, take Billy Graham and Jim Baker for example.

And as far as hippies go, I’ve met a lot of open minded people here in the Bay Area but none of them go around wearing the hippie regalia, tie die, filthy hair, etc… In fact I’ve found that the hippie “look” is often used as the lazy way to get others to regard the wearer as open minded, tolerant etc., without he/she ever putting the effort into actually behaving in any of those ways. It makes me think of butt implants – the person gets the effect without the work and usually with terribly ugly results.


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Babe Scanlon is a writer living and working in San Francisco. She's worked as an archaeologist, computer game designer, agent at Agent Provocateur and hypnotherapist. She is controlling your mind at this very moment.

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