Dear Babe,

I’ve gone on three dates with this girl and we haven’t had sex yet. We kissed some but it didn’t go any further. Does that mean she doesn’t like me? Am I just wasting my time going out with her?

Baffled and Blue (if you know what I mean)

Dear Baffled and Blue (and yes I know what you mean),

By not sleeping with you so soon, she’s saying she wants a relationship that is more than just sex. If that’s what you want also, stick around. If all you want is sex with no strings, move on so you don’t waste her time or your own.

Asking her is always an option as well.


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Babe Scanlon is a writer living and working in San Francisco. She's worked as an archaeologist, computer game designer, agent at Agent Provocateur and hypnotherapist. She is controlling your mind at this very moment.

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